DON'T YOU DARE DO THESE

 

Apparently, so many of us don't really have that heart-to-heart Talk before starting off a relationship let alone making it official. 

So, after much discussion about alot of things; The DOs, the DON'Ts, the DEAL BREAKERS & most definitely the information outsiders should NEVER know about your relationship; I'll be focusing on some of the things people/outsiders should NEVER know about the relationship with your partner....NEVER EVER.....Oya....Let's Go!

1. Details of your last fight/argument/querel:

I don't want to know who that person is (unless you both goes for counseling); Nobody should know the details of the last fight/querel with your partner. So many of us are guilty of this nonsense activity. You had a heated argument with your partner then BOOOOOOM! You've called Amaka or Felix to explain to them...as per what?

You better focus! Tomorrow now after you both have resolved the issue, & you both start exchanging lovey dovey pictures/pleasantries online, guess who'll be mocking & laughing both of you offline....Yeah! Amaka & Felix. Some petty friends will even come underneath the comment section to throw shades at you guys. 

Better give yourself brain! Lock up & resolve it between you two! There's no argument or querel that can't be resolved between both of you, unless two of una dey mad & una no even serious about una relationship & the future. 

PS: No relationship/Marriage is perfect, forget what you see/read online, so deal with the issue!

2. Private Correspondences:

I'm not saying it's not good to show off your partner once in a while on social media cos of the excitement & the experience of love. But there should be strict boundaries abeg.

There's something called PRIVATE CORRESPONDENCES in every relationship. Lemme explain; You see all those naughty/intimate chats you have with your partners in closed doors or those traps (bedroom/bathroom pictures or while dressing) she/he sends to you just to stir up the atmosphere; Please none should be shared to or seen by your friends/families EVER! 

It still baffles me how some intimate/personal pictures/chats meant for one set of eyes are being circulated or viewed by so many at the same time especially on social media 😩😩

Why? To what gain? Validation? Or Re-validation?

Stop giving people the ammunition to blow up the beautiful thing that you have. This is because, PEOPLE WILL PEOPLE---They will always ruin good things.

****Private correspondences should remain private correspondences*****

3. Details of the SEX LIFE with your partner:

This is one information I will NEVER understand why people engage in such. Some people will just finished experiencing one of the most awesome intimate activity created by God between them. Then BOOOM! Amaka don run call Folake to give her gist of how Felix knack her pieces (with even details of how he lifted her legs with unusual styles). 

Same thing, Felix don run WhatsApp Tobi about their experiences with captions "I just knack her papa silly....details coming shortly" Really? 😩 Who does that ? And you expect your friends not to go after your man & woman behind your back? Or start fantasizing about your partner? 

Some of us are the cause or nemesis of our own issues. You better fix up! Some things are better kept between you two not even shared with family members, unless you need help & they're professionals for such services.

4. Personal Things/Secrets Your partner tells you out of confidence: 

I can't overemphasized this enough. ANYTHING your partner discussed with you is not a point of discussion with your friends abeg. Abeg🙏! That's total betrayal if you don't know. 

**YOU'RE expected to be their gate keepers of such information with your life. This is because in this present time & age; Personal Information about people are mostly used to hurt people these days rather than to help them. People blackmail or shades or even sell such information to blogs for hot gist just for trends & mockery.

***Another critical point: Things that they're insecure about or their weaknesses & they told you about such information.

**Don't ever try to make a joke/cruise with such information in the open especially when you both are out with friends in a particular gathering. That's Insensitivity of the highest order! Infact that's satanic & demonic 😭

PS: Just incase the relationship crashed afterwards due to irreconcilable differences; It is still expected of you to keep their secrets. 

Do you know why? This because the very moment you start spilling their secrets because you both are no longer in a relationship; It tells alot about you that you're not a safe haven with personal information. Guess what, maybe you have some admirers; They will all have a changed of mind towards you cos you're definitely a trusted individual.

5. Money Issues: 

This is something many of us always have huge misconception about & it's so laughable to me sometimes. Wo! Listen & listen good; In every relationship there will be money issues. You can't escape that. Nobody can & Nobody will escape that 😂

Between the two partners, there must be one that's too frugal with spending & the one that's too free with spending (not necessarily lavish spender). But both partners can't be on the same page with spending initially--It takes time with understanding & discussion for both to be on the same page.

Here is the message, on no account should "money issues" between you & your partner be a public of discussion. Abeg 🙏 Biko Kwa!! It's meant to be private cos it's personal between you two.

Imagine, Folake going to tell Tosin that her boyfriend Chuddy is always broke--He doesn't know how to manage his finances. 

As per what? Financial adviser? 

Tomorrow now, Tosin will see Chuddy & call him a broke nigga & you'll be shouting "Don't you dare disrespect my man".....Aunty Folake you caused it! Rest for the night abeg! 

If you & your partner both have any money issue or financial upset; You both should seek the advice of a financial advisor (probably you both need some tips on financial literacy). 

Stop dragging your partner to the mud by telling a third party. ***This goes to the men as well***

6. Their Dislike towards one or more of your friends:

Eeeeeiiii 😩😩 This is a junction so many of us makes blunder. Lemme explain. Are you aware that there's always that one or two particular friend of yours that your partner don't really like seeing around you. Like he/she don't just vibe with such fellow. But as a loving & supportive partner, they will always play along. But because they've told you, you're already aware they don't like that particular friend of yours.

Now, as mumu man/woman that you are, in a middle of a normal conversation with your friends you open you mouth and say "Tobi, wetin you do my woman? She just doesn't like you or enjoys your vibe. What's up?" 

Do you know that will definitely create animosity between them? Something your partner told you & BOOOOOOM you've gone to tell the said friend....That's immaturity if you ask me. Honestly, some of us are not mature for the this relationship thing talkless of marriage. Let's all be guided Biko 🙏

Wo! Until next time, please engage and follow me on @austeiin on twitter as well