THAT PARTICULAR QUANTA CALLED "WOMAN"

So one of my nigga's nigga was lamenting that very evening about being turned down by every lady he goes after and the matter be like say e don develop K-leg because son of man was already thinking he's cursed.....Wahala!

I decided to engage one of my very good Pastor and a friend online by asking him such a question as if na my matter just so the matter go legit. I asked him: ''Sir, I keep asking ladies out but they never agree. Why do I keep getting nailed?" 

He responded that I should take a step back to evaluate on 5 things that I should pay attention to as a man (and also other dudes in my shoes) which are stated below:

1.  Your Approach

2.  Your Communication

3.  Your Preparedness

4.  The Company you keep  &

5.  Your Appearance

THE APPROACH: 

By default, no decent lady like unserious men coming to chat with them or hangout with them talk less of asking them out. When approaching any woman, please do it with maximum respect; Salute her politely and don't objectify her. Don't even whistle at her or try undressing her with your eyes....lol....some dudes have these kinda laser's eyes that undresses women even if she's wearing  a long gown that sweeps the floor. 

The truth is, every decent lady wants to know that you're really interested in her beyond her body; That the man is interested in what she represents and stands for; What she has--her mind, her interests, dreams and aspirations not just her curves, asses and boobs. Also don't go about drooling over her else she will perceive you as a pervert. Just be composed, humble, confident, polite and be respectful towards her. After all she no carry fire on top her head.

Meanwhile, as a man you should be focused and know what you want as well. No be say when you jam Amaka that is dark skinned today; Tomorrow you saw Bolanle that is Light skinned your brain go spark like Ijeshatedo transformer. Son of man stay focus oh! Know what you want and go for that particular her. 

THE COMMUNICATION:

Omo! at this level many dudes usually mess up big time! Most dudes think the best way to get any lady is to give her sweet lamba back to back; Not knowing that ladies have heard these sweet sayings from different dudes over and over again. Yes, it is important to sell yourself with dignity and pride but don't over do it. 

One of the consistent mistake(s) guys always do is communicating with the lady by telling her what they have; Like you will hear some dudes already talking about their bank accounts, cars, houses and connections using those yard-sticks to lure the babe; Forgetting that whatever you use in kick-starting that communication must be sustained till the end else, you will definitely lose her afterwards. The truth is, a decent woman doesn't need you to inflate your importance--Just be yourself.

Also, while trying to be yourself; In order not to overshoot your importance, please don't give her the impression that she's doing you a favour of wanting to date you and vice versa....abeg oh!!

THE PREPAREDNESS: 

This is the space where you will have to bring out the marketing spirit in you because it's all about your selling point--How well can you sell yourself as a man? You must be able to convince her that you are an investment she's willing and interested in banking on. Mind you, other guys dey ground trying to grab her. So what's so special about you when compared to them for her to invest her time, energy, love and heart on you?

Son of man, you really need to have a well painted picture of the future displayed to her. A realistic and well planned future without stress. Nobody is saying there won't be challenges; But at least a well planned future with sweetness will convince her that the realization is possible as this will definitely make her believe in you and consider to follow you. At least she should be seeing some of the evidence of the future in you as you show her. 

But at the same time, don't skyrocket the picture oh all in the name of trying to convince her. Preparedness is all about you selling your vision to her. Telling her that see, this is where i am going and these are things currently in place to take me there and these are things are i am currently working on to get me there. There should be traces of the picture you painted already displaying in your life....This shows that you are on track. And trust me, every decent lady knows when they see a man on track. 

THE COMPANY YOU KEEP:

This is self-explanatory because you are as good as your friends; your geng; your squad or 5&6 as it's been tagged these days. The koko is that, a very smart and observant lady always pay attention to the those you spend most of your time with. As in, what do you expect from such a meticulous woman. 

The reality is that, your friends, cliques and hangout buddies are your biggest testimonials about who you really are. A player and an unserious fellow will definitely roll with players and the likes. Like that popular adage says: Birds of a feather flock together. So Baba mi, mind the people you hangout with.....She's watching you closely. Even if she's not there with you; People are watching you on her behalf.....lol....e shock you abi....? Even me too. But that's the blatant truth, except she's not interested in you. 

So brace up, else you might just be getting that consistent rejection simply because of the friends you keep.

YOUR APPEARNANCE: 

Dear fellow men and anyone who cares to listen, your appearance is so important! As in, it's a top-tier concern and should be taken very serious (Take it from a living testifier). Learn to groom yourself when it comes to your looks and peripheral display. If you don't know or you're not familiar with the rudiments, ask someone who does. No talk say i no tell you oh!

Dress sweet; Not too excessive, just know what's good on you and know your style. Know what fits and suit you. Always get a smart and neat haircut. In fact, know that particular haircut that suit your personality and keep at it on a regular. Smell nice and yummy baba mi. The truth is, You can NEVER get it wrong smelling like a fresh bread at the night. Get an affordable perfumes and body spray to go with.

The truth is, the moment you capture her with your cologne, it's definitely a sweet ride for you. Packaging they said separates plantain chips from bole. You don't  have to break a bank to look neat and sweet. Just look good and neat....your finger nails, beard/moustache, teeth and breath should not be left out as well abeg.

Like my Daddy will always tell me: "Chileta, learn to put your best foot forward at all times no matter what". 

Mind you; After doing all these things as stated above, NEVER forget to put God in the equation as you unleash else all the whole seasoning might end up being a big LAMBA.

And even after putting God in the equation she still didn't accept your proposal. Then she's not the one for you. Just chill and keep being you. YOUR OWN GO DEFINITELY SHOW UP! 

I hope you enjoy this write up so far..... Best regards to Pastor Godman Akinlabi for the gist and his time.

God bless you for reading as well!!!!!!!!!!!!!